Learning Through Motherhood: Growing with My Children

Before I became a mother, I thought parenting would be about guiding and teaching. I imagined helping my children navigate life, showing them the right paths, and giving them tools to become good people. What I didn’t expect was how deeply they would teach me. Now, as a mother of two young children—a lively five-year-old and an endlessly curious two-year-old—I’ve come to see parenting as a mutual journey of learning. Each day is filled with little lessons, some joyful, some messy, and many completely unexpected. Motherhood has taught me patience, presence, and the beauty of small moments. And it’s led me to seek connection—not just with my children, but with others who are walking a similar path. Letting Go of Perfection I used to think I had to get everything right. I believed in the myth of the “perfect parent”—one who always knows what to say, who never raises her voice, who follows a flawless routine. But real life with children doesn’t work that way. There are tears, chaos, laughter, and sometimes all three at once. The more I tried to control everything, the more exhausted I became. So I started letting go—not of responsibility, but of the pressure to always have the answers. I learned to be more present, to respond instead of react, and to slow down enough to see things through my children’s eyes. It was around this time that I also began reaching out and learning from other parents. I found comfort in reading shared experiences, especially from those who were embracing alternative learning approaches like Montessori. I came across this page of thoughtful parent reviews on KuKoo Montessori’s Trustpilot: https://www.trustpilot.com/review/kukoomontessori.com and it felt like discovering a community of kindred spirits. These weren’t glossy testimonials—they were real stories, filled with honesty, trial, and growth. It reminded me that I wasn’t alone in wanting something more intentional for my children. Making Learning Part of Life One of the biggest shifts in our home happened when I stopped thinking of learning as something that only happens at school or through structured lessons. My children learn best when they’re interested, engaged, and free to explore. Whether we’re baking together, watching ants build a colony, or reading the same book for the tenth time, learning is everywhere. Montessori principles have helped guide this shift—not rigidly, but gently. I started noticing what drew my children in and giving them more space to follow their curiosity. My older child loves sorting objects and making patterns, while my toddler is deeply fascinated by textures and sounds. So instead of fighting to get through worksheets or formal lessons, I’ve learned to follow their lead. Writing about our days has also become a practice of reflection for me. I began sharing short pieces online—not as polished essays, but as honest windows into our lives. On platforms like Vocal Media, I write about everything from the challenges of managing screen time to the joy of quiet, creative afternoons at home: https://vocal.media/authors/ku-koo-montessori Writing helps me process, and it helps me connect—with myself and with others who are also figuring it out as they go. The Power of Quiet Community One thing I didn’t expect was how meaningful online spaces could become. In between nap schedules and mealtime cleanups, I found moments to check in with other parents online. I wasn’t looking for tips and hacks—I was looking for something deeper. A reminder that even when parenting feels isolating, we’re never truly alone. That’s how I found Threads, where I’ve been quietly sharing glimpses of our daily rhythms. There, I post snapshots of the simple things—our nature walks, shelf setups, toddler art, or just thoughts I want to remember. It’s not about perfection. It’s about presence. https://www.threads.com/@kukoomontessori Through this space, I’ve found a gentle kind of connection. Not one of loud advice or rigid rules, but of mutual understanding. And sometimes, that’s exactly what a mother needs. Still Learning, Still Growing If there’s one thing motherhood has taught me, it’s that growth never stops. My children are changing every day—and so am I. The version of myself that I bring to them now is softer, more flexible, and more forgiving. I’ve learned that I don’t need to have all the answers. I just need to show up, to love them through the uncertainty, and to be open to learning. There are still hard days—days when nothing seems to go right, when I doubt my choices, or when I long for a quiet moment to myself. But even in those moments, I remind myself: this is part of the journey. And I don’t have to walk it alone. So here I am—raising my children and being raised by them in return. Sharing not as an expert, but as a fellow traveler. Listening, learning, making mistakes, and trying again. One breath, one story, one moment at a time.